One of the most difficult challenges you may face in your life is adjusting to life with a disability. Sometimes we don’t really appreciate how lucky we are to be healthy. Then when our health is gone, we obsess about what we have lost.
While you can’t go back in time and change what has happened, you can still move forward. There are still things that you can do to improve your life as it now is. No matter your disability, you are always in charge of your mindset and your attitude. And that makes it entirely possible to overcome the challenges you face and enjoy a full—and fulfilling—life.
So what can you do to try to move on with your life?
Here are a few suggestions.
Grieve Your Loss.
Like people who have lost a loved one through death, when you are hit with a disability, you experience a tragic loss. Loss of your health, loss of your independence and yes, loss of your life. The life you had. The life you thought you would have. So the first thing you will need to do to start the healing process is to grieve your loss.
You need to acknowledge your feelings and let it out. Grieving like this is about as much fun as having the flu, but like the flu, you need to let the negative emotions (at least the worst of them) pass through you.
So grieve. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself emotionally and don’t judge yourself. If you’re having a bad day, you’re having a bad day. Don’t pretend to be “OK” if you are not feeling ok, and don’t think that grieving means you are not strong or brave or valiant. Grief is the beginning of the emotional healing process.
But don’t live there.
Give yourself the time you need, but then move on. Focus on what you can do and what you hope to do in the future. Find someone to help, something to do, something to look forward to. With time, the worst of it will pass and your emotions will get less intense.
Look for Inspiration.
Look for inspiration in other people, like Jon Morrow, a 34-year-old with muscular dystrophy who can’t move anything but his eyes, and lips, yet built and runs several successful companies, and is an active blogger. In his own words, Jon lives “an amazing life.”
3. Work on Acceptance.
You don’t have to give up, but to cope with your disability; you have to learn how to accept it.
You always have a choice about what you choose to think. If you chose to think sad, defeating thoughts, then you will be sad and defeated. If you chose to think empowering thoughts, then you will be empowered. When you accept that you cannot change what is, only then can you begin to take action and plan what you will do with your life.
As Jon Morrow says, acceptance isn’t defeat, it’s the first step to victory.
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